Thursday, 29 August 2013

My Relaxer Update

I relaxed my hair on Friday, the 23rd of August 2013. I must say that the stylist who relaxed my hair did not do a good job of it. At least for the relaxer part although she fared better when it was time to blow dry my hair.




Before going to the salon I coated my hair with some Wura’s Secret Hair Growth oil, my New Wura’s Secret Hair Moisturiser and Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie (review coming soon) and then sealed again with my Wura's Secret Hair Growth Oil. I must say that I was very heavy handed with all the products and my hair was literally coated. For my scalp I applied a lot of Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil again.

got to the salon and she relaxed my hair, mind you I was only 10 weeks post. She acted like my new growth was tremendous and she kept asking other stylists questions. At this point I should have asked her to stop but I felt bad because I actually quite like her (because she appears to be doing the best she can and always listens).

Anyway she relaxed my hair, washed it and put me underneath the steamer. She also blow dried my hair using a comb attachment, she was quite gentle at this point. My hair looked so lovely (I wish I had taken a picture then), however the next day I discovered a lot of relaxer burns around the perimeter of my head. I am now working on getting these burns to heal and will probably do a post on dealing with bad relaxers to help others who might be in this situation.

Here are a few pictures of my current hair length days after I had it blow dried and humidity had set in. Please note my hair was not flat ironed (which may have stretched it out even more) as I really despise the flat iron. I have the sort of hair that is thick and unruly and always seems to shrink until I get a flat iron to it and then it surprises me. But after all is said and done I absolutely love my hair.





This post is also a sort of Birthday Hair Growth Challenge update (on the length of my hair sort of, after the hair cut), I hope you all have entered and are reaping the benefits.  Don’t forget that the end date is 26th October 2013 and the lovely prices up for grabs. 

What have you all been up to hair wise? 

TONKABELLE, xoxo



Her need for me and mine for she has made my winter spring - Robert K. Charron

Saturday, 24 August 2013

The Criss Cross Bun

Hey lovelies, hope you are all fine and are having a wonderful weekend. I had been meaning to have this post up since Tuesday however work got in the way and I became super busy. I just wanted to share one of my favourite go to styles on those occasions when I am not sporting my usual simple bun. I kept on recreating this bun throughout this week to work. However I also wore it to church so it is versatile and can suit most situations with minor tweaks. This hair style is dubbed the criss cross bun and here is how I achieve this look:



Moisturise and seal your hair.

Use a styling comb to make the front portion of your hair appear sleek (do not comb through)

Decide where you want to criss cross your hair (it should be the sections of hair just above your ears).

Take two tiny sections of hair at both ends of your hair (above your ears) and cross them over in the middle of your head and pin at the point where both sections meet.



At this point you can actually wear your hair half up, half down if you choose to. However since we love our protective styles – gather the rest of your hair and pin it underneath. Like I did here

For this look you need no more than two – five pins depending on how full your hair is and how much of a hold you require.




Hope you all have fun trying this out (any curliness seen in my hair is as a result of an old bantu knot out which I will cover in a future post). Please look out for a relaxer update post coming soon.

TONKABELLE,xoxo



I am intrigued by the smile upon your face, and the sadness within your eyes - Jeremy Aldana

Thursday, 15 August 2013

How to Relax (Retouch) Hair Properly

A lot of ladies go to get their hair relaxed without actually knowing what they should be watching out for, there are also some ladies who relax their hair themselves and do not do so properly – hence this post. Please note that there are certain precautions to take before actually relaxing your hair and I have covered that in a previous post here.  For how to relax your hair properly please keep reading:

Base your scalp (optional): It is important that you base your scalp to prevent the relaxer from accidentally getting on your scalp. You can use a heavy butter to do this or a light oil, it really just depends on what works for you. I now use a light oil on my scalp because using a butter left my hair slightly under processed. Separate and part each section of your hair until the entire scalp is covered with the oil or butter. I however have to state that basing your scalp is an optional step.



Protect the perimeter around your head: It is very important that you apply some petroleum jelly or the protective jelly that comes with box relaxers on your hairline, nape, top of the ears and edges to prevent any chemical damage when relaxing your hair.

Protect your previously relaxed hair (optional): This step is optional but it is for those who want to properly protect their hair. Apply a heavy cream, conditioner or light oil to your previously relaxed hair to protect the hair better and to stop any relaxer that might actually get onto the hair from fully penetrating the hair shaft. I now mostly just use an oil on my previously relaxed hair.



Apply the relaxer: Divide hair into four or more sections, you can use some clips to hold the sections in place. Make thin parts and apply the relaxer to the new growth only using a relaxer brush (sprush), wooden spatula that comes with box relaxers or the back of a small comb. This is where a lot of people make mistakes because most hairstylists apply the relaxer over the entire hair including hair that is already relaxed. Please note that it is very important to only relax the new growth or you will end up with hair that is severely over processed which will eventually lead to acute breakage. I therefore need to stress again - Never relax hair that has been previously relaxed. The exception to this rule however will be in a case where some parts of your hair are under processed (in this instance you may apply relaxer to previously relaxed hair) this is known as a corrective relaxer or when relaxing natural hair for the first time.  Make sure that in applying the relaxer it does not get on your scalp, as a relaxer is meant to be applied on the hair alone. Continue applying the relaxer section by section and so forth until everything is done. After you have applied the relaxer to the four sections of hair, reapply and gently work the relaxer through the sections of hair.

You may choose to very gently comb through each section of new growth at this point to ensure that the hair is properly relaxed, please note that this step is completely optional. The texture of your hair will determine how long you can leave the relaxer on. You may refer to the product instructions for more details.


Rinse relaxer off with warm/lukewarm water: Next rinse your hair with warm/lukewarm water ensuring that you remove all visible traces of the relaxer.

Wash the hair with a neutralizing shampoo: The next step is to use a neutralizing shampoo to wash your hair, an example of a neutralizing shampoo which is easily available is the Organic Root Stimulator Creamy Aloe Shampoo. It is important that you use no other sort of shampoo except one which will actually neutralize the harsh effects of the relaxer. Leave the neutralizing shampoo on the hair for five minutes at a time without rinsing off to ensure that the hair is completely neutralized and the relaxer process is stopped. Repeat the wash at least twice or thrice making sure that the shampoo is left on the hair for at least five minutes each time. This is also one of the important steps in the relaxer process and one where a lot of people make mistakes. Hair breakage, and damage are some of the consequences of not leaving the neutralizing shampoo in for long enough, a colour indicating neutralizing shampoo will also help in this regard.



Mid step Protein Treatment (Optional): Since this is a hair blog it is important that I indicate every method out there. This is an optional method I used in the past when I relaxed my own hair myself. In my opinion I do not think this process makes any real difference to the hair but it is an excellent method to try out if you want to. After rinsing the hair thoroughly, you can do a mid step protein treatment (by applying a protein conditioner) to strengthen the hair after the relaxer process and before the neutralizing stage. Please note that to do this treatment you should leave the protein conditioner for no longer than two – five minutes so that your hair does not become damaged. A good conditioner to use in this instance is the Aphogee 2minute Reconstructor. Apply the conditioner throughout your hair, cover with a plastic cap for about 2 minutes, rinse and follow the step above by using a neutralizing shampoo to wash the rest of the relaxer off.

Deep conditioning treatment: It is important you use a deep conditioner(s) with both protein and moisture. I usually just mix a protein and moisturising conditioner together however you might want to do a protein deep condition first and then follow up with a moisture conditioner. Ensure that the deep conditioner is applied to all parts of your hair, leave on hair for the amount of time desired and then rinse.

You can use a neutralizing shampoo again on your next wash day following the relaxer treatment to be sure that any trace of relaxer is washed off the hair. Please be sure to wait at least six to eight weeks before your next relaxer treatment; however it is recommended that you stretch your relaxer to at least eight weeks.

Hope this post has been beneficial, kindly leave any comments or questions you might have and I will gladly respond.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



When it was dark, you always carried the sun in your hand for me - Sean O'Casey, Three More Plays: The Sliver Tassie, Purple Dust, Red Roses for me


Wednesday, 7 August 2013

Wura’s Secret Hair is One - Happy Blogiversary


On the 2nd of August 2012 I wrote my first post and was finally able to publish it. I remember how long before then I had actually wanted to start this blog. I had attempted to write my first post on 15th June 2011 more than a year after I started this blog. Why then did it take me so long, you might ask - the reason is simple I was scared of failing even before I started. That was until the day I asked myself this question – “what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” and then I took the plunge or at least that was what it seemed like to me at the time and started our darling Wura’s Secret Hair Blog. 


This is one of the reasons why I always leave a quote at the end of each of my posts because although this is a blog about hair care, I really want to motivate people to be the very best versions of themselves. Please hear me when I say that if there is anything you want to do but are scared to try – tell yourself you can do it and get out there and make it happen. 

I am grateful to God for allowing this blog to make it to one year and by God’s grace there will be many more years to come. I thank all of my followers and everyone who leaves comments for me, you are all my precious jewels of inestimable value and I cherish and appreciate every one of you most wholeheartedly. 

I have a lot of things in store for Wura’s Secret Hair and by God’s grace the second year anniversary of this blog would be even more glorious. Thank you all once again my precious lovelies!!!

TONKABELLE, xoxo



“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.” 
 J.R.R. Tolkien - The Fellowship of the Ring