Tuesday, 17 December 2013

Hair and Life Update - I have the most Exciting News

Hello my lovelies it has been a really long while. I must sincerely apologise for being away for so long. Before you get upset please listen to this - your very own Tonkabelle only recently got married. Due to the amount of planning involved especially at the last minute I had to give my favourite blogging passion the back seat for a while. Also I did not care for my hair as much as I would have liked to. Believe me – planning a wedding is not that easy even with a wedding planner. Especially if you are the perfectionist type like me...

Anyway on the day I was less stressed and did not let anything bother me (God was indeed faithful). I prayed that it should not rain and it did not rain for the most part (at least not where my wedding took place). It was the most glorious day and you trust me that I wore my real hair on the day. A lot of people tried to discourage me saying that a weave would look better but I paid them no mind. I would have loved to do my hair myself but due to the fact that both ceremonies (traditional and white wedding) were taking place on the same day I did not have that kind of time. So the lovely Damilola did my hair for me, if you have natural or relaxed hair or you want your hair done using a weave you can contact me for her details.

Anyway now on to some pictures, my sister helped to do this collage the first is of me in my wedding dress getting to the church and the other is of me in my traditional wedding outfit.



I will definitely share more pictures with you once they are ready. Now on to my hair update I got my hair relaxed on the 9th of November 2013 any progress which I seemed to have gained earlier disappeared after getting the relaxer I guess it was due to the fact that at that point my wedding was only two weeks away. Here is a picture for you to see.



After the wedding we went away for two weeks and my hair really suffered from the sand, sun, salt, ocean and swimming pool, I was having to use a blow dryer constantly and only once washed my hair with the hotel shampoo and used a leave in afterwards as I brought no deep conditioner with me.

I am still trying to get back in the swing of things and adjusting to my new life. I am so excited for Christmas hope you all are as well.  Don’t think I have forgotten I will be announcing the winner of the Birthday Hair Growth Challenge soon.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



At Christmas play and make good cheer,
For Christmas comes but once a year.
- Thomas Tusser


Saturday, 2 November 2013

The Birthday Hair Growth Challenge – Results and Chance to win a prize

Hope my precious lovelies are all fine and well (and enjoying this fabulous November weekend). Let me be the first to congratulate you on the fact that we have made it to the end of the Birthday Hair Growth Challenge. The end date was 26th October 2013; hope everyone found it to be the most rewarding experience. Let me do a quick recap on the rules of this challenge and how I fared:

1. I definitely started the challenge with a very good trim.

2. We were to wash and condition our hair every one or two weeks. I think I did not quite meet up with this rule because there was some weekends I was very busy but I still washed my hair a great deal.

3. I however did a pre shampoo/hot oil treatment every time I washed my hair.

4. We were to moisturise and seal our hair every day or every other day. Again this was average for me because there were times when I did not do this.

5. I did not oil my scalp every other day as well although I did oil my scalp on some occasions.

6. I did a lot of protective styles and definitely kept the rule of this challenge in protective styling at least 5 times a week with mostly buns I did not wear a wig as much. I actually protective styled all through the challenge so yay for me!

7. I also kept this part of the challenge in not using heat on my hair and hardly ever used my monthly heat pass.

8. I stretched my relaxers to at least 10 weeks so this part of the challenge was accomplished.

9. The optional part of the challenge which was the green house effect method was scarcely done by me due to time constraints.

Now let me share with you my results from the Birthday Hair Growth Challenge, remember I said that I wanted a fuller bun just the way my bun used to be before I cut my hair, so here are the results…

This is my before picture, I had just relaxed my hair and cut it 

This is the after picture, my hair is due for a relaxer which will stretch it out more. (NB. I put on all the lights yet the picture is still quite dull, apologies!)

I used the same elastic band for both pictures but it is really slack now. I will do a follow up post to this challenge after I have relaxed my hair and I will redo the bun. However I am very happy with my results my hair has really grown, it has regained its fullness in a bun and I am quite enjoying it as this length. I will definitely post the results of my flat ironed hair once I get a relaxer.


Currently I am still accepting your before and after pictures, although I have received a few I want to give everyone a chance to win the fabulous price which is our Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil – Extra Strength Formula. Remember that this is for people who have a Lagos delivery address. (Also to qualify to win you should have liked our facebook page). Kindly send your pictures to wurassecret@gmail.com . I will give you all till the 20th of November 2013 to send in your photos because I have received some emails from people who are waiting to get their hair relaxed before sending them in. As I also need to get a relaxer to post final pictures I can relate to this.

Please let me know how you all fared in the comment section below.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



"Sigh no more, ladies, sigh no more,
Men were deceivers ever,
One foot in sea and one on shore,
To one thing constant never.
- William Shakespeare, Much Ado about Nothing.



Saturday, 26 October 2013

Product Review – Africa’s Best Kids Organics Shea Butter Shampoo

Hey lovelies, forgive me for the inconsistent posts, I will try to do better by you and I definitely have some new posts in store for you all. I just wanted to do a quick post on this lovely shampoo I discovered after looking through the ingredients and eyeing it in the stores on several occasions. To be honest I have been using it every single wash day to properly cleanse my hair and so far I have been loving it.

It is described on the bottle as being a therapeutic herbal formula which gently removes build up and impurities, thoroughly cleansing the hair and scalp. Your hair is left feeling squeaky clean, silky, more manageable and with an exhilarating and fresh smell. Enriched with Extra Virgin Olive Oil and Shea Butter, hair receives a healthy boost of moisturisers that soften, condition and detangle.

Some of its ingredients include water, Cocamidopropyl Betaine, Sodium Laureth Sulfate, Cocamide DEA, Polyquarternium-10, Shea Butter, Soy Bean Oil, Corn Oil, Olive Oil, Jojoba Seed Oil, Tea Tree Leaf Oil, Silk Amino Acids, Mink Oil, Egg Powder, Milk Protein, Honey.

Its directions state that you should – wet hair and apply a generous amount of the Shampoo. Work into a lather, gently massaging scalp. Rinse and Repeat and be sure to remove all traces of shampoo from hair.



Pros

1. This product cleanses the hair without being very stripping. In fact I can say that it does not lather up too much almost like a non-sulfate shampoo.
2. It works as a great detangler, I can usually detangle my hair with this shampoo in. As soon as I apply it my hair feels good.
3. It is easily available in Nigeria and can be found in most shops, markets and so on.
4. It is reasonably priced depending on where you get yours from.
5. One of the best things about this shampoo is that it is gentle on the hair and does not leave the hair feeling too stripped while still removing product build up.
6. It contains a lot of natural ingredients that our hair loves although they are further down the list of ingredients.
7. It contains the right amount of protein to add strength to the hair while still being moisturising and conditioning at the same time. Sometimes after using it I seriously contemplate the need for a conditioner.
8. It can be used on relaxed, texlaxed, natural and even children’s hair as it is a Kid’s shampoo.

Cons

1. I do not particularly like the smell it reminds me of synthetic purple grape. However it is a kids shampoo and I am sure the scent is aimed at them. This should not deter you however, as it smells better than most products.
2. It contains a few ingredients which may not be necessarily beneficial to the hair such as parabens. If you are very ingredient conscious this is something to take note of.
3. It has a quite runny consistency which results in some of it slipping out of my hands when I want to apply it to my scalp.

Rating – 4.8/5 (Very Good) I definitely recommend this product.


Kindly share your experience with this product if you have used it or if it is something you would be willing to try? If you try it do let me know how it turns out. Also please share other sulfate shampoos that you have tried and loved. If you are not sure whether your shampoo is a sulfate one simply check the list of ingredients.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



"People have to forgive. We don't have to like them, we don't have to be friends with them, we don't have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don't we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry" - C. Joybell C.

Thursday, 10 October 2013

10 Fascinating Facts about this Hair of Mine

Maybe not so fascinating but just wanted to do a fun post this time round to share some stuff about my hair and also to learn about your own hair as well. So here goes:


1. My hair is thick I used to not like this but now I embrace its thickness wholeheartedly.

2. It does not like to be co washed. Try as I might anytime I co wash my hair all I get is this coated feeling. I can do it once in a while but I cannot go too long without washing my hair with shampoo.

3. My hair loves to be washed with shampoos that contain one kind of sulfate which is sodium laureth sulfate such shampoos usually detangle my hair and never leave my hair feeling stripped. I try to stay away from all other forms of sulfate shampoos except when it is absolutely necessary.

4. My hair does not like to lay down so much except when I take a hair straightener/flat iron to it.

5. My hair always shrinks in length (I think the humidity in Nigeria also plays a factor). There are times when just before I get a relaxer I think my hair has not grown and then it surprises me after I put some heat on it.

6. My scalp usually loves to be oiled, oiling my scalp feels so good during and afterwards.

7. My hair loves protein deep conditioners mixed with moisture deep conditioners but after this will not take too ligtly to a protein leave in or hair moisuturiser so I use these sparingly even on none wash days.

8. I used to have the darkest black hair, everyone thought I had it dyed back in secondary school now it is still dark but a lot lighter in some parts.

9. Most hair stylists say my hair does not take too well to relaxers so no matter how often I get it relaxed and even do corrective relaxers it still maintains this texlaxed feel which I have grown to love and embrace.

10. My favourite protective style of all time is the bun I do all sorts but for a curly look I love a flexi rod set bun.


Kindly share some peculiarities about your hair, what it likes and does not like. Everyone’s hair is uniquely different and we should learn to embrace what makes us different and be proud of it.


PS. These are some older pictures of my hair before I cut it, slowly but surely it is getting back there. Our Birthday Hair Growth Challenge is coming to an end I am hoping for a fuller bun at the end of it. I will also straighten my hair at the end of the challenge, I hope you have all been rewarded from following the rules.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



Have patience with everything that remains unresolved in your heart.... live in the question - Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet 

Saturday, 28 September 2013

NCHG Salon Day Out

Hey loves, it's been a while. Hope you are all doing well. Just wanted to put up a quick post of an event taking place on the 5th of October 2013 which is being hosted by my friend and fellow blogger the lovely Dabs of Naija Hair Can Grow. The event which is taking place in Lagos promises to be an opportunity to get your hair pampered and treated properly - so come one, come all. For more information on the event kindly click here


TONKABELLE,xoxo



The man, full of himself, can never proclaim the Christ that emptied himself - Jacquelyn K. Heasley

Monday, 16 September 2013

Black Tea Rinse to Reduce Hair Shedding

Shedding is a natural process which happens to everyone and is how our hair renews itself (you can read this post here on how to determine if your hair is shedding or breaking). However an excessive amount of shedding due to stress, pregnancy, weight loss, and so on can lead to loss in length and volume of our hair. 

Black tea is an excellent way to stop our hair from shedding as much. This is because it contains caffeine which blocks DHT, (dihydrotestosterone) a hormone which is responsible for hair loss and makes it impossible for healthy hair to thrive. Black tea also darkens the hair and gives it strength and shine.



Do not search high and low for black tea as it is none other than regular tea we drink every day so brands such as lipton, pg tips or tetley are examples of black tea that can be used for tea rinses. It is important that when doing the black tea rinse you do not opt for decaffeinated tea as the caffeine in the tea is the integral component of the rinse.



If you are experiencing a lot of shedding or if you will like to minimise the amount of hair shed, a black tea rinse might just be the remedy you are seeking. Another substitute for a black tea rinse is a coffee rinse which is equally effective because it contains caffeine like black tea and some say that it is gentler on the hair strands. You can also try black tea which contains other additional natural ingredients such as chamomile, rosemary, lavender and so on. The procedure as outlined below can also be used for coffee rinses if your prefer this.

The amount of tea used will vary on a person’s hair needs and what works for them. However anything from 2-10 bags is an adequate amount of tea. Simply steep the tea bags in hot water (in a medium sized bowl or pitcher) for ten to fifteen minutes and allow to cool with the tea bags still in or you can take them out. You can also choose to leave the tea bags in overnight in the fridge so that the tea is very strong. Once the tea is cool it is ready to use.



There are various ways to use black tea to reduce shedding however it is important to remember that due to the caffeine content, black tea will result in hard hair. So one should use a moisture deep conditioner whilst doing these rinses. If you do not know how to identify a moisture from a protein conditioner please read this post here. Here are the various way to use black tea rinses to combat shedding:

1. After shampooing your hair and drying it. Take the bowl or pitcher of black tea and pour it over your hair slowly concentrating on your scalp. You can also apply the black tea using a bottle with an applicator tip or you can use a regular bottle and punch a hole in the cap (excellent diy alternative). After pouring it over your hair, cover you hair with a plastic cap anywhere between ten minutes to an hour. Rinse out and then apply some moisturising deep conditioner on your hair, cover hair and leave for the required amount of time and then rinse.

2. An alternative to the above method is that after pouring the tea on your hair and leaving it on for the required amount of time under a plastic cap, you do not rinse out but apply the moisture deep conditioner over it.

3. Another alternative is that you pour the tea on your hair and immediately apply a moisturising deep conditioner over it and then cover hair for the required amount of time and rinse.

4. You can also apply the tea to your hair before shampooing and conditioning as a form of pre shampoo treatment. Cover your hair and leave the tea on your hair for the required amount of time, rinse and shampoo and condition as normal.



PS. Wear some old clothes when doing this treatment and wash your bathtub immediately afterwards to prevent the tea from staining it.


Have you tried black tea rinses, what was your experience with it or is this a treatment you will be willing to try? Hope everyone is sticking to the rules of the Birthday Hair Growth Challenge, we have a little over a month to go.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



And now these three remain, faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love - 1 Cor. 13 v 13, Holy Bible, New International Version



Saturday, 14 September 2013

Wash Day Post

I just realised that I have not put up a detailed list of my hair regimen on this blog. The reason why I have probably not done this is because I do not want everyone to just go and try out these steps and find out that it does not work for them. Regardless of this however it is important for me to share to at least serve as a guide. I have recently changed my regimen and I must say that it suits me just fine, I changed some of my conditioners and shampoos. Now here goes the detailed wash day post:

I had to wait two weeks before washing my hair because of the relaxer burns I experienced as I needed to ensure that they had completely healed. I decided to be very diligent with this wash day to nurse my hair back to health after the excruciating relaxer experience I had.

I started off by pre pooing with Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil for about four hours. I covered my hair with two nylon bags and two shower caps.

I rinsed off the oil and shampooed my hair with Africa’s Best Kids Organics Shea Butter Shampoo (this product is available in Nigeria).  This was actually my first time using this product and over all I liked it. I will do a more detailed review after I have used it a few more times. It contains sulfates there are times when you need a good sulfate shampoo, I used this to remove any last traces of the relaxer, however I tend to only use sulfate shampoos with sodium laureth sulfate because they are milder and work best for me.



I also detangled in two sections (with shampoo in my hair), first with my fingers and then with a wide tooth comb whilst washing my hair, I do not recommend this and I do not do this every time but it seemed to work perfectly at this stage as I hardly have any new growth. I normally shampoo my hair in two sections to minimise tangles after that was done I towel dried still in those two sections.

I then applied a coin sized amount of Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil to each section of my hair (this is the oil rinsing step of my regimen).

Then I applied my conditioner over the oil, I usually apply my conditioner in sections. I take a section of hair apply some conditioner rub it in gently and twist it till I have about six to eight twists.

My conditioner mix included one and a half tablespoons of  Redken Extreme Builder Plus, three table spoons Organic Root Stimulator Replenishing Conditioner (review here), one and a half tablespoons of Wura’s Secret Whipped Penetrating Moisturising Conditioner, a squirt of Roux Porosity Control Conditioner (this is the newest addition to my hair regimen and I use it every single wash day), one tablespoon hair trigger growth elixir, one tablespoon wura’s secret hair growth oil, one tablespoon coconut oil, half a tablespoon of castor oil, 4 drops of rosemary and lavender oil.

Here are some of the conditioners I used

I covered my hair for about seven hours with two nylon bags and two shower caps, I usually put a scarf on top of all this but my head seemed to hurt for some reason.

I then rinsed with cold water still in two sections, I usually just lean over the bath the entire wash day process instead of getting in.

I towel dried in those two sections and then immediately started sectioning off my hair and I applied some Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil to my scalp and then coconut oil on my hair, then Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie and then I combed. I noticed that the smoothie made my hair slightly hard and not as easy to comb as when I use my Wura’s Secret Hair Moisturiser but I wanted to try this product out on wet hair and then I sealed each section with Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil and twisted it until I had about twelve twists in total.

This was my hair on Monday (after I had unraveled the twists), I wanted a tight curly look that was restrained

My Friday look I was going for a more messy look (I still have a lot of texture left from the twists), my hair is not as long as it used to be but it is getting there

Kindly share how your wash day went and if you have tried any of the products I have used. Have a splendid weekend loves.

TONKABELLE,xoxo



“Hope is the thing with feathers 
That perches in the soul 
And sings the tune without the words 
And never stops at all.” 
- Emily Dickinson

Thursday, 5 September 2013

Product Review - Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie

Hey my precious lovelies, hope you are all doing well. I just wanted to do a quick review of a delightful product I got recently from the awesome Fifi (thank you very much dearest). I am the first one to tell people that you do not absolutely need to travel to get products for your hair. Regardless of how bad the product situation in your place of residence is, it is all about finding the right products that work for you by reading the labels and the product claims. However with that being said on to the review – it is described on the jar as Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie with Coconut Oil, Silk Protein and Neem Oil; for thick, curly hair; for moisture, body and shine.



The directions on the jar are as follows: Apply to damp or styled hair to enhance curls, minimise frizz and provide curl control.

It contains all natural ingredients such as water, shea butter, coconut oil, mango seed butter, avocado oil, vegetable glycerine, aloe barbadenis leaf extract, silk protein, neem seed oil, carrot seed oil, panthenol, essential oil blend, honeysuckle flower, vitamin E.



Pros

1. It has a very delightful smell, it is literally the best smelling hair product I have tried.
2. A little goes a long way, this product can definitely last a while because you only need a little bit.
3. It has a very creamy soft almost whipped like consistency.
4. This leads me to the fact that it is absolutely moisturising, I cannot explain how well moisturised my hair feels after using this product.
5. It contains protein however it does not feel like typical protein moisturisers it is much more moisturising.
6. It is suitable to be used on all hair types, relaxed, texalxed, natural and so on.
7. It is a multipurpose product as it can be used to hold braid outs, twist outs, bantu knot outs, hence its name. I will attempt to do one of these styles, using this product and I will show you all the finished results.
8. It is all natural and contains no harmful ingredients such as parabens, paraffin, mineral oil, sulphates and so on.
9. I love the packaging of this product simple yet effective to get the point across.
10.It is good value for money since it lasts a while.



Cons

1. It is not readily available in Nigeria.
2. It may be more suited for people with thicker hair (after writing this I saw that the product actually states thick, curly hair), if your hair is fine it might be weighed down by this product.
3. Some might say it may be more better suited as a sealant due to its heavy consistency and the amount of oils it contains even though water is listed as the first ingredient. I myself use it as my cream moisturiser after having already applied my Wura's Secret Hair Moisturiser which has a more liquid consistency. 
4. Perhaps I would have preferred it more with a pump, I do not really enjoy dipping my fingers into products.

Rating 5/5 (Excellent)

What is your experience with this product or is it something that you would be willing to try?

TONKABELLE, xoxo



What is lovely never dies, but passes into other loveliness, star dust, or sea foam, flower or winged air - Thomas Bailey Aldrich, A shadow of the night

Thursday, 29 August 2013

My Relaxer Update

I relaxed my hair on Friday, the 23rd of August 2013. I must say that the stylist who relaxed my hair did not do a good job of it. At least for the relaxer part although she fared better when it was time to blow dry my hair.




Before going to the salon I coated my hair with some Wura’s Secret Hair Growth oil, my New Wura’s Secret Hair Moisturiser and Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie (review coming soon) and then sealed again with my Wura's Secret Hair Growth Oil. I must say that I was very heavy handed with all the products and my hair was literally coated. For my scalp I applied a lot of Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil again.

got to the salon and she relaxed my hair, mind you I was only 10 weeks post. She acted like my new growth was tremendous and she kept asking other stylists questions. At this point I should have asked her to stop but I felt bad because I actually quite like her (because she appears to be doing the best she can and always listens).

Anyway she relaxed my hair, washed it and put me underneath the steamer. She also blow dried my hair using a comb attachment, she was quite gentle at this point. My hair looked so lovely (I wish I had taken a picture then), however the next day I discovered a lot of relaxer burns around the perimeter of my head. I am now working on getting these burns to heal and will probably do a post on dealing with bad relaxers to help others who might be in this situation.

Here are a few pictures of my current hair length days after I had it blow dried and humidity had set in. Please note my hair was not flat ironed (which may have stretched it out even more) as I really despise the flat iron. I have the sort of hair that is thick and unruly and always seems to shrink until I get a flat iron to it and then it surprises me. But after all is said and done I absolutely love my hair.





This post is also a sort of Birthday Hair Growth Challenge update (on the length of my hair sort of, after the hair cut), I hope you all have entered and are reaping the benefits.  Don’t forget that the end date is 26th October 2013 and the lovely prices up for grabs. 

What have you all been up to hair wise? 

TONKABELLE, xoxo



Her need for me and mine for she has made my winter spring - Robert K. Charron

Saturday, 24 August 2013

The Criss Cross Bun

Hey lovelies, hope you are all fine and are having a wonderful weekend. I had been meaning to have this post up since Tuesday however work got in the way and I became super busy. I just wanted to share one of my favourite go to styles on those occasions when I am not sporting my usual simple bun. I kept on recreating this bun throughout this week to work. However I also wore it to church so it is versatile and can suit most situations with minor tweaks. This hair style is dubbed the criss cross bun and here is how I achieve this look:



Moisturise and seal your hair.

Use a styling comb to make the front portion of your hair appear sleek (do not comb through)

Decide where you want to criss cross your hair (it should be the sections of hair just above your ears).

Take two tiny sections of hair at both ends of your hair (above your ears) and cross them over in the middle of your head and pin at the point where both sections meet.



At this point you can actually wear your hair half up, half down if you choose to. However since we love our protective styles – gather the rest of your hair and pin it underneath. Like I did here

For this look you need no more than two – five pins depending on how full your hair is and how much of a hold you require.




Hope you all have fun trying this out (any curliness seen in my hair is as a result of an old bantu knot out which I will cover in a future post). Please look out for a relaxer update post coming soon.

TONKABELLE,xoxo



I am intrigued by the smile upon your face, and the sadness within your eyes - Jeremy Aldana

Thursday, 15 August 2013

How to Relax (Retouch) Hair Properly

A lot of ladies go to get their hair relaxed without actually knowing what they should be watching out for, there are also some ladies who relax their hair themselves and do not do so properly – hence this post. Please note that there are certain precautions to take before actually relaxing your hair and I have covered that in a previous post here.  For how to relax your hair properly please keep reading:

Base your scalp (optional): It is important that you base your scalp to prevent the relaxer from accidentally getting on your scalp. You can use a heavy butter to do this or a light oil, it really just depends on what works for you. I now use a light oil on my scalp because using a butter left my hair slightly under processed. Separate and part each section of your hair until the entire scalp is covered with the oil or butter. I however have to state that basing your scalp is an optional step.



Protect the perimeter around your head: It is very important that you apply some petroleum jelly or the protective jelly that comes with box relaxers on your hairline, nape, top of the ears and edges to prevent any chemical damage when relaxing your hair.

Protect your previously relaxed hair (optional): This step is optional but it is for those who want to properly protect their hair. Apply a heavy cream, conditioner or light oil to your previously relaxed hair to protect the hair better and to stop any relaxer that might actually get onto the hair from fully penetrating the hair shaft. I now mostly just use an oil on my previously relaxed hair.



Apply the relaxer: Divide hair into four or more sections, you can use some clips to hold the sections in place. Make thin parts and apply the relaxer to the new growth only using a relaxer brush (sprush), wooden spatula that comes with box relaxers or the back of a small comb. This is where a lot of people make mistakes because most hairstylists apply the relaxer over the entire hair including hair that is already relaxed. Please note that it is very important to only relax the new growth or you will end up with hair that is severely over processed which will eventually lead to acute breakage. I therefore need to stress again - Never relax hair that has been previously relaxed. The exception to this rule however will be in a case where some parts of your hair are under processed (in this instance you may apply relaxer to previously relaxed hair) this is known as a corrective relaxer or when relaxing natural hair for the first time.  Make sure that in applying the relaxer it does not get on your scalp, as a relaxer is meant to be applied on the hair alone. Continue applying the relaxer section by section and so forth until everything is done. After you have applied the relaxer to the four sections of hair, reapply and gently work the relaxer through the sections of hair.

You may choose to very gently comb through each section of new growth at this point to ensure that the hair is properly relaxed, please note that this step is completely optional. The texture of your hair will determine how long you can leave the relaxer on. You may refer to the product instructions for more details.


Rinse relaxer off with warm/lukewarm water: Next rinse your hair with warm/lukewarm water ensuring that you remove all visible traces of the relaxer.

Wash the hair with a neutralizing shampoo: The next step is to use a neutralizing shampoo to wash your hair, an example of a neutralizing shampoo which is easily available is the Organic Root Stimulator Creamy Aloe Shampoo. It is important that you use no other sort of shampoo except one which will actually neutralize the harsh effects of the relaxer. Leave the neutralizing shampoo on the hair for five minutes at a time without rinsing off to ensure that the hair is completely neutralized and the relaxer process is stopped. Repeat the wash at least twice or thrice making sure that the shampoo is left on the hair for at least five minutes each time. This is also one of the important steps in the relaxer process and one where a lot of people make mistakes. Hair breakage, and damage are some of the consequences of not leaving the neutralizing shampoo in for long enough, a colour indicating neutralizing shampoo will also help in this regard.



Mid step Protein Treatment (Optional): Since this is a hair blog it is important that I indicate every method out there. This is an optional method I used in the past when I relaxed my own hair myself. In my opinion I do not think this process makes any real difference to the hair but it is an excellent method to try out if you want to. After rinsing the hair thoroughly, you can do a mid step protein treatment (by applying a protein conditioner) to strengthen the hair after the relaxer process and before the neutralizing stage. Please note that to do this treatment you should leave the protein conditioner for no longer than two – five minutes so that your hair does not become damaged. A good conditioner to use in this instance is the Aphogee 2minute Reconstructor. Apply the conditioner throughout your hair, cover with a plastic cap for about 2 minutes, rinse and follow the step above by using a neutralizing shampoo to wash the rest of the relaxer off.

Deep conditioning treatment: It is important you use a deep conditioner(s) with both protein and moisture. I usually just mix a protein and moisturising conditioner together however you might want to do a protein deep condition first and then follow up with a moisture conditioner. Ensure that the deep conditioner is applied to all parts of your hair, leave on hair for the amount of time desired and then rinse.

You can use a neutralizing shampoo again on your next wash day following the relaxer treatment to be sure that any trace of relaxer is washed off the hair. Please be sure to wait at least six to eight weeks before your next relaxer treatment; however it is recommended that you stretch your relaxer to at least eight weeks.

Hope this post has been beneficial, kindly leave any comments or questions you might have and I will gladly respond.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



When it was dark, you always carried the sun in your hand for me - Sean O'Casey, Three More Plays: The Sliver Tassie, Purple Dust, Red Roses for me


Wednesday, 7 August 2013

Wura’s Secret Hair is One - Happy Blogiversary


On the 2nd of August 2012 I wrote my first post and was finally able to publish it. I remember how long before then I had actually wanted to start this blog. I had attempted to write my first post on 15th June 2011 more than a year after I started this blog. Why then did it take me so long, you might ask - the reason is simple I was scared of failing even before I started. That was until the day I asked myself this question – “what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” and then I took the plunge or at least that was what it seemed like to me at the time and started our darling Wura’s Secret Hair Blog. 


This is one of the reasons why I always leave a quote at the end of each of my posts because although this is a blog about hair care, I really want to motivate people to be the very best versions of themselves. Please hear me when I say that if there is anything you want to do but are scared to try – tell yourself you can do it and get out there and make it happen. 

I am grateful to God for allowing this blog to make it to one year and by God’s grace there will be many more years to come. I thank all of my followers and everyone who leaves comments for me, you are all my precious jewels of inestimable value and I cherish and appreciate every one of you most wholeheartedly. 

I have a lot of things in store for Wura’s Secret Hair and by God’s grace the second year anniversary of this blog would be even more glorious. Thank you all once again my precious lovelies!!!

TONKABELLE, xoxo



“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.” 
 J.R.R. Tolkien - The Fellowship of the Ring