Monday, 29 August 2016

Indian Practices for Growing Longer Hair – Oiling

Hello everyone, I will be creating posts on some of the practices adopted by Indians to grow their hair healthy, long and beautiful, the first instalment is on oiling techniques. We all know that Indians have some of the most beautiful hair in the entire world; of course some of this comes down to genetics however another reason is because of the hair care practices they adopt to grow their hair long and healthy.

There are many practices adopted by Indians in hair care, which are quite peculiar to them and I will be incorporating their oiling technique to my hair for the remainder of the hair growth challenge and thereafter to see how my hair progresses. I will encourage everyone to do the same as the techniques are simple enough and something that we can all follow. Without further ado let’s get into the post.

(Here is a picture of my bun after church, I achieved this fullness quite easily)


The most common oils used by Indian women for hair growth are amla oil, neem oil, brahmi oil, bhringhraj oil, mustard oil, sesame oil and coconut oil. Indian women apply oil to their hair regularly and the principal ways they use it will be itemised below:

As a pre-shampoo treatment: Before shampooing their hair, Indian women may do a pre-poo treatment. However their version of pre-poo treatments differs slightly. This is because they would usually use only an oil as opposed to other methods of pre-pooing where conditioners, deep conditioners, leave-ins and so on are used. The popular oils used for pre-pooing are amla oil, bhringhraj oil and coconut oil. To pre-poo they make sure that they massage their scalp with lukewarm or normal temperature oil for about 5 -15 minutes. The oil is applied liberally to their scalp as well as to their entire length of hair. You may also choose to wrap a warm towel (it should not be hot) around your head for about 15 minutes to allow the oil penetrate better. You can however cover your hair with a plastic cap, leave the pre-poo in your hair for 30 minutes and above or even overnight; then rinse out and proceed with your normal wash day routine. Now this is something I will be incorporating because scalp massages will actually stimulate blood flow to the scalp encouraging the hair to grow longer, they are also very relaxing. Another benefit of pre-pooing is that it fortifies the hair against the wash day and detangling process making it less prone to breakage.

As a scalp oil: Indian women oil their hair daily or every other day and wear protective styles such as a long braid or a bun. This technique locks in moisture and prevents hair breakage and dryness. Whilst oiling, giving yourself a little massage as you go along, will go a long way in growing your hair, you can spend between 1 – 5 minutes daily on a hair massage. I personally will start giving myself a scalp massage as often as I can.

As a Leave-In: Indian women often use oils as a leave-in conditioner and apply it to the ends of their hair after washing and conditioning it.

I hope this post has given us ideas on some of the practices we can incorporate for longer, healthier hair. I am really thinking that I need to get my hands on some Indian oils such as amla oil, brahmi oil and bhringhraj oil, if anyone knows where I can get these oils please share in the comment section below.

Also if there are any Indians reading this post we would love to learn more about your hair care practices, especially how you oil your hair for hair growth. Thank you all for reading this post on the oiling techniques employed by Indians to grow longer hair, until next time my precious lovelies.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



"That's the nature of being a parent, Sabine has discovered. You'll love your children far more than you ever loved your parents, and - in the recognition that your own children cannot fathom the depth of your love - you come to understand the tragic, unrequited love of your own parents". - Ursula Hegi

Friday, 19 August 2016

How to stop Hair Breakage in the Middle of your Hair

Hello everyone, I am back with a post on how to prevent and stop hair breakage in the middle of your hair. Hair breakage in the middle part of our hair is a common problem which most of us may have experienced at some point in our lives. Audrey Sivasothy, author of "the Science of Black Hair" describes this as when your hair falls in a w-shaped pattern along the back of your hair as opposed to a u or v shape or a blunt hemline.

Here is a picture of Lungi, a fabulous South African blogger when her hair was still relaxed, she is now fully natural. She kindly gave me permission to use her photo, please be sure to check out her blog - BLungi for hair, beauty, travel, lifestyle and loads more.


Hair breakage in the middle part of our hair occurs because the middle part of our hair sometimes tends to be coarser and drier than the other parts. Also because it is more difficult to reach when applying products in our hair, the middle part of our hair may be neglected and subsequently break off. Hair breakage in the middle of our hair may also occur as a result of physical elements such as incorrect relaxer application, improper use of chemical services, heat damage, using hair pins in the middle section of your hair or tight ponytails in the middle section of your hair, tight weaves, tight braids and so on.

I shared with you all in my last relaxer post how I was experiencing some breakage in the middle of my hair and how I intend to nurse that area back to health. There are several ways hair breakage in the middle of our hair can be stopped and even prevented, I will be sharing them below:

Section your hair and pay particular attention to the middle portion of your hair when moisturising and sealing: When you are experiencing hair breakage in the middle of your hair it is important that you concentrate your moisturising and sealing efforts particularly in the middle portion of your hair. A rule of thumb to help you and what I have been doing lately is to first section my hair (I usually do 4 sections) and then moisturise the middle sections of my hair first before I go over the rest of my hair. We usually have a tendency to moisturise the outermost parts of our hair better as they are easier to reach however to stop hair breakage in the middle of our hair it is important to moisturise and seal that section properly.

When deep conditioning focus on the middle section of your hair: Deep conditioning is an excellent way to repair the hair and add nourishment to it. It is important to deep condition regularly to correct hair breakage in the middle of your hair. In a situation where you are experiencing hair breakage in the middle part of your hair you will need to focus the deep conditioner in the middle portion of your hair making sure to apply it properly over that section.

Protein Treatments: Protein Deep Conditioners are an excellent means of fixing hair breakage. It is important to incorporate protein deep conditioners in your regimen to reduce breakage in all parts of your hair including the middle section of your hair and to make that part of your hair stronger.

Detangle hair gently particularly the middle section of your hair: When detangling your hair you need to be extra careful with the middle section of your hair in a situation where you are experiencing breakage in that area. Handle that part of your hair with a lot of care making sure to use a product that would provide lots of slip to make detangling easier. Also try finger detangling that area first before going over it with a wide tooth comb (or you can skip that step altogether if you feel you do not need it).

Limit Heat: The frequent use of blow dryers can cause hair breakage which can also translate to breakage in the middle section of your hair. The mechanical damage from brushing your hair while blow drying; can also lead to hair breakage in various areas of your hair including the middle section. It is therefore advisable to air dry as much as possible for healthier hair and to prevent the middle section of your hair from breaking off. Also heat styling tools such as curling wands, flat irons and so on should be avoided.

Scalp massages: Scalp massages concentrating your efforts on the middle part of your hair will go a long way in growing it out and will also stop breakage in the middle part of your hair. Spend a few minutes whenever you can giving yourself scalp massages all over your head concentrating on areas where you need it the most. It is important to use an oil that will actually stimulate growth (please refer to this post where I share the 5 best Oils for Hair Growth) such as Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil or Castor Oil.

Avoid wearing harmful protective styles: There are certain protective styles which rather than aiding hair growth – may actually hamper it and cause breakage in the middle section of the hair. Protective styles such as tight braids or weaves should be avoided. Also it is important to make sure your ponytails or buns are not too tight and to keep on switching their position on your head.

Protect your hair at night: At night it is important to cover your hair with a silk/satin scarf/bonnet to prevent hair breakage. However to prevent or stop your middle hair from breaking off, it is even more important that the hair that has been covered is loosely put in a hair scrunchie or something that would not apply too much tension to the hair. You can also do some loose twists or braids and keep them protected underneath the scarf/bonnet.

I will encourage everyone to try out these tips to stop or prevent hair breakage in the middle of their hair. Thank you as always for taking your time out to read this post, it means a lot to me – please don’t forget to share with others who might find it beneficial. If you have any questions or comments please share.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us" - Ralph Waldo Emerson


Tuesday, 9 August 2016

My Relaxer Update

Hello everyone, I thought to share my relaxer update with you all. I got my hair texlaxed on 22nd July, 2016 which was at approximately 12 weeks post relaxer. I used a different relaxer this time around – the Crème of Nature Argan Oil Relaxer which I must say seemed rather gentle on my hair compared to the ORS Olive Oil Relaxer which is like my staple relaxer. Also the Crème of Nature Argan Oil Relaxer is cheaper. For now I am still undecided as to whether to change my relaxers so I am going to see how my hair is for the coming weeks and make up my mind which relaxer to use by the time I am due for another texlax.

I am also excited that we are gradually coming to the end of the Hair Growth Challenge – I hope that everyone has been experiencing tremendous growth. Anyway let’s get into the relaxer day post. On the day of the relaxer I made sure to thoroughly detangle my hair I believe it took about an hour to make sure that I got all the tangles out. I even parted my hair into sections to make it easier for the person who would be doing my relaxer.

The Crème of Nature Argan Oil Relaxer was applied to my new growth only, I also told the stylist not to put any relaxer on my edges until the very end so the relaxer only stayed on my edges for about a minute or so. My hair was first rinsed with water and then shampooed 3 times with the Crème of Nature Clarifying Shampoo and the ORS Creamy Aloe Shampoo. After that I deep conditioned with a mix of Redken Extreme Builder Plus Conditioner, Elasta QP Conditioner and Wura’s Secret Deep Conditioner. The stylist put me underneath a steamer for about 15 minutes, my hair felt slightly hard after the deep conditioner was rinsed off perhaps because of the Redken. I however noticed that I had minimal breakage/shedding which I was happy about.

The stylist then proceeded to put some Vitale Olive Oil Mayonnaise Conditioner for a few minutes which I think helped to soften up my hair. When the product was rinsed out and my hair was towel dried, she applied my leave-in which was the Shea Moisture Castor Oil Lotion, to seal I used my Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil. She also applied the oil to my scalp.

The problem I had with the entire relaxer process was that she did not blow dry my hair with enough heat and so I did not get the blow dried results I would have liked. My hair did not feel straight enough or silky enough. So I did not really like how my relaxer day pictures turned out.



I also discovered my hair in the middle is seriously beginning to thin out. I am glad that I at least have some time before the end of the hair growth challenge to fix this. I am going to be paying particular attention to that part of my hair and also to my edges. Hopefully I will be sharing pictures of my progress soon. (Please be on the lookout for that post)



I hope you all enjoyed reading my relaxer update. Please share how your relaxer day went or how you have been wearing your hair in the summer. If you have any questions or comments do share and I will be glad to respond.

TONKABELLE, xoxo



"It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed." - Theodore Roosevelt


PS: I have been on a mini vacation and I neglected my hair quite a bit, so I am getting back to taking proper care of my hair.

Tuesday, 2 August 2016

2 Protective Styles for Relaxed or Natural Hair

Hello everyone I am back again with another post and this one is on 2 different protective styles I have worn over the past few months. These Protective Styles can be done on relaxed, texlaxed or natural hair it’s really just about adopting it to suit your particular kind of hair. I got inspiration for these hairstyles from ladies with natural hair I then tweaked them to suit my own hair type – so you can definitely do the same. I will do my best to give a detailed tutorial of how you can achieve these protective styles. If you are able to do any of them please be sure to tag me @wurassecrethair on instagram – would love to see how you are able to wear any of them.

The first protective style is the Fuller Ponytail it actually leaves your ends out but if you want to, you can definitely pin them in. This is however a protective style because as long as your ends are not touching any part of your clothes you can wear it out and you hair will still be semi-protected. The reason for this hairstyle is to give your ponytail a fuller appearance than it would ordinarily have. Now on to the tutorial:



  • Moisturise and seal your hair making sure to focus specifically on your ends which would be left out for the hairstyle.
  • It is important to start with textured hair (textured hair may also help to give the hair a shorter appearance making it less likely to rub on things) I achieved the texture for this style by parting my hair into 2 and braiding both sections. You can also get texture in your hair from putting your hair in twists, flexi rods, rollers and so on, it really just depends on your preference. 
  • Leave the braids to set for at least an hour, then undo them. 
  • Next, fluff your entire hair using your fingers. By fluff I mean put one hand at the base of your head and the other at the crown of your head and try to open the hair. This will add the necessary fullness to the ponytail. (To see clear details and pictures on how to fluff and use the wide elastic hair band refer to my old bun tutorial post here
  • Take your wide elastic hair band and pull all your hair through the wide hair band, adjust the hair band until you get the width and placement you want. 
  • Play around with your hair to get your desired fullness, leave as is and voila your fuller ponytail is done.

    The second protective style is definitely one of my favourites which is the voluminous bun. It is one of my breakthrough relaxed hairstyles because I never thought relaxed hair could achieve this style. The voluminous bun protective style is a variation of a puff on natural hair. It is however different from a puff because here the ends are pinned in and for relaxed/texlaxed hair you may need to create extra volume to give the hairstyle the required volume it needs. Now let’s get on with the tutorial:


  • Seal with an oil I use my Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil, there may be no need to moisturise your hair especially if it is relaxed or texlaxed in the event your hair becomes weighed down with product and thus lacks the required volume.
  • Smooth out your edges and fluff/open your hair to create more volume as described above.
  • Take your wide elastic hair band and pull all your hair through the wide hair band, adjust the hair band until you get the width and placement you want.
  • Then, take the very ends of your hair and pin it underneath your headband, one or two hair pins should suffice. Voila!

Hope you like the protective style tutorials I shared. I would definitely love to know if these are hairstyles you would be willing to try. If you do try any of them out, do let me know how it goes. Thanks to everyone who reads my posts and subscribes it means a lot to me. If there is anything you would like me to address do share below and I will be sure to create a blog post on that topic.

TONKABELLE, xoxo


"You can get a thousand no's from people, and only one "yes" from God - Tyler Perry